The other day, I was in line at the bakery of the grocery store, waiting to get SB a cookie before doing my weekly shopping. There was another mom behind me, with two little ones in her cart. I smiled at her.
"This is one of those things I swore I'd never do before I became a mom," I said.
She laughed heartily. "Me, too."
I continued, "I had a pretty long list back in those days. Think I've broken every single one of my pre-child 'rules.'"
"I'm pretty sure we all do," she replied.
Of course we do. Because as I wrote in this post earlier this year, we have NO idea what motherhood is actually going to be like until we are in the trenches. We can read parenting books. Talk to friends and family. Observe others and take mental notes. We can convince ourselves we will know exactly what to do when our time comes.
When it does come, we realize we were hopelessly clueless back then. We spend a great deal of time feeling we have no idea what we are doing. It can be a harsh awakening. Unless you learn to laugh. This is true of anything in life, but especially parenthood.
We need to learn to give ourselves a break. We are doing the best we can. And, we are doing a much better job than we tend to give ourselves credit for. So give yourself a big pat on the back. And, next time you break one of those "rules," just laugh.