So last weekend the hubby and I had our first date night since our anniversary in February. I can still count on one hand the number of dates we have had since SB was born. Yes, I know I posted months ago that we were going to start going out more regularly. There are a lot of reasons why it hasn't happened before now. It's complicated.
The good news is, we have a great new sitter! And the strong desire, especially after last weekend, to get out together more often. With the holidays fast approaching, we will also have the opportunity to socialize with friends. I'm not sure I remember how to do that, but I think it's just like riding a bicycle.
Back to last Saturday. As I was going over things with our fabulous new sitter, I said to her, "I am not the kind of mom who calls to check in. I am leaving you with (SB) because I have complete confidence in your ability to care for her. Please feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions or concerns during the evening. But you shouldn't expect to hear from me."
She looked very surprised. Which made me wonder if my attitude is unusual. Then I felt guilty, like I'm a bad mom or something because I don't feel the need to check in with my babysitter. I will admit I checked my phone for a text from her so often our waitress asked if we were trying to get to a movie. I didn't want her to need me and not get a response.
Maybe that is just the same as checking in. I don't know. How do you handle things when you leave your child(ren) with a sitter? Do you check in while you are out, or simply give him/her your contact info? Does the age of the child(ren) make a difference? Let's discuss...