July 19, 2010

Juggling With Chainsaws

Jenn from Three Pugs and a Baby and I were destined to connect. One way or another, we were going to get to know each other. If we hadn't met on Twitter, we would have through our mutual friend in real life. And as the famous movie line goes, "This could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship!"


Jenn is mom to an adorable 27 month-old boy, known as Turtle. She is a successful blogger and recently started a new business venture. I thought she would be the perfect person to write about finding balance and pursuing your interests.

So without further ado, I give you Juggling with Chainsaws...

Not really. That would be crazy. Especially since I can't manage to use my hot glue gun without hurting myself.

But I am going to talk about juggling. Metaphorically.

When Elizabeth asked me to write this, she said something like "You obviously have a lot going on and manage to write a successful blog. Was hoping you could write about how you balance it all and find time for your pursuits." Which was amazingly flattering. And which also made me chuckle.

Because I don't really have a plan. Or a system. That having a lot going on thing? It's just what I've always done. I don't know any other way.

We decided that I would stay at home with Turtle because it was in line with our parenting goals. In my head, I had my idea of how that would go. The crafts we would do. The field trips we would take. What I didn't factor in was a child who is fiercely independent and who loves to sleep. With him napping from 11 til 2 on a daily basis, and going to bed at 6p, and with MacGyver working a lot of nights for his busy season... Well. I have a lot of spare time.

It's a double-edged sword.

Mostly because I am physically incapable of having "Spare Time".

So, while I use some of those hours for prepping dinner, cleaning and completing other activities of a domestic nature, I also work on the Me Stuff. Working out. Blogging. Building my new direct sales business. Baking. Taking and editing photographs. Reading. All while catching up on Bravo TV on the DV-R. I thrive on keeping my mind sharp (Don't worry. The negative effects of Bravo TV are tempered by my new obsession with Words With Friends on my iPhone. Go ahead and play with me at 3pugs) and accomplishing personal goals.

MacGyver tells me that naps won't last forever (he gets dirty looks for that), but for the time being, we have found a balance that works for us and affords me the opportunity to hold on to my identity as a person, not just as a wife and mother. Of course, Turtle and MacGyver are my priority and I will always put my family first, but to me, part of me being successful in our particular team unit is cultivating all parts of myself.

Things will continue to evolve as Turtle gets older, and we will develop accordingly. There will be trade offs. Perhaps I will lose some blogging time so that I can volunteer in Turtle's classroom or for his football team. Maybe I won't get as much reading done so that I can shift focus to help MacGyver with his business.

Who knows what the future will hold?

We will just keep adjusting and riding the learning curve, to keep all the proverbial plates in the air.

It's not everyone's cup of tea, but it's how my crazy life rolls.

And plates are way safer than chainsaws.



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12 comments:

  1. Thanks for having me as your guest blogger today! I can't wait for our first real playdate. Twitter WineParty counts, but it will be fun to meet up for reals!

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  2. I'm so happy to have you! Thanks for writing a great guest post. And yes, we need to schedule that palydate IRL soon. Although we will be having our own version of WineParty in a few weeks. ;)

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  3. Oh and btw, I think hate you (a little) for Turtle's sleep schedule! LOL

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  4. Things change dramatically when they stop napping (sorry to tell you!) and when they don't go to bed at 6 (that's dinnertime around here). I wish I had the spare time you do! But with three kids, not happening. Enjoy yours while it lasts!

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  5. I don't know, I could probably do some serious damage to myself with plates too! LOL! I'm kind of accident prone. Sounds to me like you've got this juggling thing down to an art and I'm guessing Turtle will grow naturally into it!

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  6. I hate you a lot for the nap schedule. Just kidding. That's great that you get so much time. Some weekends I feel like I get a lot of "me" time, other weekends, the husband is making a list of things I should do when the baby is sleeping or the baby just doesn't sleep longer than the time it takes me to shower and shave my legs. But, we find a way to make it work doing just what you do - adjusting, riding it out & keeping the plates spinning.

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  7. @ Cheryl - I didn't realize she had all this fabulous free time, or I might not have asked her. Just kidding! ;) I do NOT look forward to the end of naps. I cried when DD gave up her morning nap. Changed things dramatically for me! But, we just gotta roll w/the punches...

    @ Heather - Remind me to not ever be in the same room w/you two! LOL And I'm sure you're right, Turtle will learn awesome juggling skills from his mom - figuratively at least.

    @ Krista - Wait, you get to shave your legs? LOL I get less me time on the weekends. Having hubby home just seems to add to my workload. ;) I'm far more productive during the week, if you could call it that!

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  8. I'm actually kind of looking forward to him staying up a little later so we can have regular family dinners. It would be nice. Not too soon, of course, but in the next year or so.

    I dread the end of naps. Dread with the fire of a thousand suns. He's always been a crazy-good sleeper, and so I worked with that.

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  9. G-d bless the 3 hour nap!

    I tiptoe around during naptime because I fear waking Mungee. That's the major disadvantage of having a small house with the baby's bedroom backing up to the kitchen! I would love to be more productive, but instead I spend most of my spare time online. I suppose that is productive in its own way :)

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  10. geat guest post, and yes, plates are way easier and safer than chainsaws!

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  11. Moms are awesome jugglers by nature, and I think you've mastered the art!

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  12. Thanks for stopping by and showing my guest some love, ladies! :)

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